Sometimes you want him to do his GOOD ENOUGH, and not his best
Really, K? This was your pearl of wisdom for the week? In my field of expertise, behavioral pediatrics, often I treat families coping with major and minor behavioral challenges. And many of the parents seeking my services having many needs. Setting priorities to focus interventions, both physical and behavioral, is key.
When I was young, my parents didn’t push “getting straight A’s.” For some odd reason, they and I gulped down the philosophy…JUST DO YOUR BEST, which, in reality meant SO MUCH MORE than the Straight A Gold Standard. Somehow the Do-Your-Best translated into a foundation of perfectionism that served me well. I must say, I tend to be a thriver. Do your best? I am a BEST friend. The dudes at the post office know my BF’s by name because I send out a few care packages a week. Do your best? I am a BEST blogger, offering variety on a goal of 2 posts a week, and I reciprocate by hopefully making insightful comments and contributions. Do your best? I am a BEST Colleague. I offer free healthy parenting lunches in the cafeteria once a month and volunteer at the library. Do your best? I am a BEST TRAVELER, making the most of my time abroad my venturing out at least twice monthly (in the past year, I’ve been to 10 countries in the past year)
But DOING your BEST isn’t always the best.
When I tell myself “do your best” it sometimes translates into pushing myself to make a homemade dinner, spending 20 minutes chopping vegetables, when I have a frozen one all ready to go or I could have picked up a healthy option. It sometimes boils down to a be-grudged gym visitation when my body says sleep in. It sometimes is reduced to calling a “friend” for the 4th time to arrange another coffee date when she hasn’t emailed me or called me in ages.
TRUTH: WHEN I DON’T DO MY BEST, I OFTEN FEEL LIKE A FAILURE.
When kids, adults, all of us equate doing anything LESS THAN YOUR BEST with FAILURE….it creates FEAR of being ENOUGH and insecurity. Why can’t we teach each other to FOCUS on 1 challenge or hard task at a time, and letting the rest be “good enough?”
In fact, this is what a personal trainer will tell you, or a dietician…or, if she is “good”, your doctor (Go, K!). Because if you “did your best” and worked all muscles at the same time, the quality of progression would decrease, and growth would be impeded.
I have to say SO WHAT??? a lot of the time to focus myself, and my patients.
So what if my postings aren’t as frequent as I say they “should be”?
So what if I eat from the cafeteria salad bar tonight?
So what if I only make it to work after sleeping 6 hours and that is my major accomplishment of the day?
For me, I don’t need to read The Little Engine that Could…and I am guessing, NEITHER DO YOU!
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