Once upon a time, there was a colleague who started an Atkins diet on Sunday, by Monday at mid-day, she snarled, “I would kill for wonder bread.” In the same village, a new mother took her child to see the doctor regarding a cough, and was told to go home and get some sleep. Three days later, the diagnosis of pneumonia was confirmed. And don’t forget the good girl who provided explanations for her boyfriend’s tardiness and negative comments for years on end.
Why don’t we listen to our intuition? The natural sense that our bodies need fueling? That our thoughts need validation? That our relationships need respect? Almost every day my friends and colleagues provide statements of self distrust. They “shouldn’t” have cut their workout session short (but what if your body needs rest?) or they should have completed that group exercise like they were “supposed” to (but what if you were caring for a loved one in the hospital?). Sure, there are times when we psyche ourselves out. When we lie to ourselves. But when we WANT something, our first response is to deny it. Put down that bagel! Take off those red shoes! Don’t say that comment that might be taken in the wrong way! s.
I truly see a lot of women knowing what they want, and then telling themselves that it is bad to want it. And that’s just plain sad. It is not bad to want to sleep with Anderson Cooper…I mean, who wouldn’t? And it is not bad to want to get a pedicure. Perhaps it is bad to actually do so three days/nights in a row. Everything in moderation, right?
But what is bad is labeling your DESIRES as wrong. I believe that if a lot more women trusted themselves, then we’d be more gracious in our relationships, and embrace our inherent strengths.
So I am starting a new project, inspired by Operation Beautiful. Every Monday, I am setting an intention for the week, for myself and for my loved ones. This week: TRUST yourself. I took this picture and made a postcard and am sending it to a friend who needs to hear this message. If this resonates with you, I challenge you to write it on a post it and send it to someone who needs encouragement. Comment here to let me know, and post it up on your blog if you have one….
How do you need to trust yourself more?