I am a question asker by nature. Too curious…it often caused me trouble, from my 2nd grade teacher tattleing to mom that I mocking her when asking my peers questions to my sunday school teacher placing scotch tape over my mouth…I’ve always been intrigued by how a good question mark, enchanted at how raising inflection at the end of a sentence could perplex others.
Not to mention the best counter-move of all time, answering a question with a question.
So I asked people this week when I was asked: “why are you single?” with “why are you married/in a relationship…”
The responses definitely stimulated something….
I’m too picky (or it’s variant: I have too high of standards)
I’m not into the dating scene
I haven’t met the right one
I’m too busy to date
I need to work on myself first
Married/In a relationship
I wanted some one to do things with
I wanted to raise children with him
Some one had to clean up after me because my mom stopped doing it
When asked, single people tend to provide defensive responses that speak to a personal deficit of some sort…married people point out relational benefits.
So, why are you single? Why are you married/in a relationship? What do you get out of it? What does it cost you?